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What is Parent Effectiveness Training?

Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.) is based on a philosophy of respect for everyone’s feelings and needs in family relationships.  Meeting children’s emotional needs is vital for raising happy, resilient, secure kids and our needs as parents are important too!

P.E.T. is unique in that it is not focused on simply trying to change children’s behaviours.  Children’s behaviour is usually driven by underlying feelings and needs. Many parenting courses focus on trying to change children’s behaviour and therefore miss the underlying causes.  This often results in change that is short-lived and doesn’t help kids develop important social and emotional skills.

P.E.T. offers parents highly practical tools to raise emotionally intelligent children, without the reliance on coercive behaviour management such as punishments, rewards, threats, bribes or time outs.

This results in warmer, more connected relationships, and kids who are happier, more co-operative, responsible and self-disciplined. This also makes parenting easier and more enjoyable!

Who does P.E.T. work for?

P.E.T. skills are equally effective for parents with children of all ages; for step-parents, single parents, foster parents, parents of different cultural backgrounds, grandparents and carers.

Designed to teach healthy communication skills to parents, P.E.T. is a 24 hour course, which usually comprises of 8 x 3hour sessions. The P.E.T. program was developed by award-winning, psychologist Dr Thomas Gordon  50 years ago after extensive research. The course is now taught by accredited instructors worldwide.

P.E.T. can show you how to:

  • Listen so children will feel understood (ACTIVE LISTENING)
  • Grow your connection with your children (PREVENTIVE & RELATIONSHIP SKILLS)
  • Talk so children will understand and help you (I-MESSAGES)
  • Resolve conflict so nobody loses (THE NO-LOSE METHOD)
  • Avoid ineffective communication (COMMUNICATION ROADBLOCKS)
  • Deal constructively with values collisions (CONSULTING SKILLS)

Benefits to families:

  • Less stress and anxiety
  • Better able to deal with anger and strong emotions
  • Warmer more satisfying relationships
  • Children become self-disciplined, resilient and solve own problems
  • Day-to-day issues are resolved respectfully eg bedtime, chores, homework, going to school, use of social media
  • Children talk more openly to parents
  • Fewer family conflicts
  • Children more open to parent/s ideas and their values
  • Parents can comfortably express their own concerns and unmet needs related to children’s behaviour.

Duration: 3 hour sessions offered over an 8 week period (24 hours in total).

Classes: As a skills based program, you will practice your learning within your class to gain confidence in using them in your everyday life.

“Recently my husband and I attended the P.E.T. course. I describe the course and the skills learned as the missing puzzle piece! As parents we knew how we didn’t want to parent – no smacking, no threatening, no bribing or punishing, yet we struggled to find an appropriate alternative and were at risk of being too ‘soft’. Using P.E.T. has helped us to fill in the blanks and provided us with those much needed alternatives. The benefit of doing the course together has meant that my husband and I are now on the same page in terms of our parenting styles. Our confidence to be the parents we want to be has returned.
Both our children, despite being very different in personality, have responded well to us acknowledging their feelings and working together to find solutions that work for the whole family. Our Instructor continually models the P.E.T skills, giving us first hand experience of the gentle, yet assertive style she is advocating. We are very grateful to have had the P.E.T. experience with her and believe that we will be better parents as a result!”

- Parents of 9 and 6 year old - children with very different personalities
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About ETIA

The Effectiveness Training Institute of Australia (ETIA) Ltd is a not-for-profit, community based organisation that is dedicated to making courses in communication and conflict resolution skills available and accessible to all people in Australia.

ETIA’s mission is to provide individuals with effective communication and conflict resolution skills to build connected, harmonious relationships.

Our inspiration and programs come from the late Dr Thomas Gordon who is the author and founder of Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.) program and Gordon Training International (GTI).

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