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Tired of yelling, bribes, time-outs or punishment? Wanting connected, closer relationships with children and other important people in your life? Learn a time-tested model of communication that is both assertive and compassionate. Designed by award-winning psychologist and three-time Nobel Peace Prize Nominee, Dr Thomas Gordon.

DETAILS OF THE COURSE: Join me from the comfort of your own home at my next interactive online P.E.T. course starting Wednesday 25 May over 8 x 3 hour sessions.

Dates: 9:00AM till 12:00PM each Wednesday – 25 May, 1, 8, 15, 22 June, 13, 20, 27 July 2022.

Classes are small and conducted in a friendly and relaxed environment via Zoom. Each participant receives a workbook and a reference book ‘Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children’ by Dr Thomas Gordon, a Certificate of Completion, and 24 hours of training.

In this P.E.T. course you will learn time-tested effective skills to:

  • build connection and prevent problems in the relationship
  • listen without road blocking your child when they have a problem
  • support your child solving their own problems
  • effectively and comfortably confront your child when their behaviour is unacceptable and deal with any defensiveness
  • resolve conflicts so there is mutual respect when you and your child or the family have a conflict, in addition to dealing with values collisions.


  • One of the participants spontaneously said at a recent online class, “I look forward to this class each week. I’m learning so much. It is like a sacred space for me, and I feel so connected to the group.”
  • “It’s a life changing experience. Inspiring, encouraging, enlightening, supportive. Thank you, Kathryn!”
  • “Very practical support tools for both parenting and professional relationships. And an insight into myself at a quite profound level of deepening self-awareness.”
  • “This is the best thing I have done for me and my children since I became a parent.”


  • Children don’t talk openly to you
  • Family conflict
  • Feelings of guilt for parents and children reacting resentfully
  • Feeling overwhelmed, overloaded, and over-tired
  • Hassles over issues like bedtimes, chores, rules, screen time
  • Children resist your ideas and values
  • Tantrums, scenes, battles of wills, flare-ups are frequent
  • Getting to school, arguments over homework or achievement level
  • Children have difficulty being assertive, dealing with bullying.


• Less stress and anxiety.
• Better able to deal with anger and strong emotions
• Increased self-confidence and assertiveness
• Learn listening skills
• Increased self -understanding

• Better two-way communication
• More family harmony
• Establish successful discipline
• Children become self-disciplined, more responsible and solve own problems
• Warmer feelings, closer relationships
• Children are more self-reliant, resilient, independent, and self-motivated Children more open to parent’s ideas
• More fun in the family!


 Kathryn’s passion is helping parents to build more peaceful, loving relationships through improving their communication skills.

Kathryn is a teacher, certified coach and author. She has taught from early childhood to tertiary level, worked as an advisory teacher, co-ordinated a family support programme and written for parenting magazines in Beijing and Australia.

As an authorised Parent Effectiveness Training Instructor by Gordon Training International she is also a Master Trainer for Effectiveness Training Institute of Australia Ltd and is the President of ETIA.

Kathryn’s presentation style is interactive, informative, motivational and personal. She is an experienced presenter at schools, parent groups and conferences.


Bookings & enquiries: M: 0466 582 315             E: [email protected]

For more information and testimonials visit:  www.theparentwithin


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Kathryn Tonges

May 25, 2022 - Jul 27, 2022

Online via Zoom - Australia & NZ, QLD


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Kathryn Tonges

Kathryn Tonges

Online Australia & NZ, QLD

I have been deeply rewarded seeing positive transformations in families by teaching P.E.T. effective communication skills since 1978. My two sons are now parents, and I am witness to their natural use of P.E.T. skills in all their interactions with children and people. My passion is to share these skills with others through these options: 1. Parent Effectiveness Training - for parents, grandparents, carers. 2. Be Your Best – personal empowerment skills for self, relationships, and the workplace. 3. Teacher Effectiveness Training – increases the quality of interactions between student and teacher with more teaching-learning time. 4. Instructor Training - I am a Master Trainer of P.E.T., B.Y.B., T.E.T. and Y.E.T. for ETIA Ltd. In my teaching career I taught from early childhood to tertiary level focusing on Child Development and Communication Skills. I lived in Beijing for seven years and conducted P.E.T. and B.Y.B. courses for expatriates as well as training expatriates to become P.E.T. instructors. I have written for parenting magazines in Beijing and Australia and blog for my website The Parent Within ( Whilst in Beijing I co-authored a book with P.E.T. Instructors I had trained, to help expatriate children cope with the changes in their life. In the last couple of years I have taken on the position of President of ETIA Ltd. Children, parenting, and effective communications continues to be my passion as I share these courses both online (Australia and NZ) or face to face in Brisbane and the Sunshine Coast as well as coaching parents individually.

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About ETIA

The Effectiveness Training Institute of Australia (ETIA) Ltd is a not-for-profit, community based organisation that is dedicated to making courses in communication and conflict resolution skills available and accessible to all people in Australia.

ETIA’s mission is to provide individuals with effective communication and conflict resolution skills to build connected, harmonious relationships.

Our inspiration and programs come from the late Dr Thomas Gordon who is the author and founder of Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.) program and Gordon Training International (GTI).

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