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PARENT EFFECTIVENESS TRAINING by three time Nobel Peace Prize Nominee, Dr Thomas Gordon, teaches skills and supports families in building more peaceful and loving relationships.

P.E.T. is a course especially designed for families to learn a time-tested model of communication offering skills which enhance relationships with children and other important people in their lives.

Bookings are being taken now for two separate P.E.T. courses:

1. Sunshine Coast – 4 x Sundays: 17th, 24th May, 7th, and 21st June 2020 – now postponed due to COVID-19. Bookings being taken for alternate course (dates to be decided).

2. Milton, Brisbane – 4 x Sundays: 26th July, 9th, 23rd August and 6th September 2020

Register your name early to secure your place. Read more details of each course below.


  • Create warmer more satisfying relationships
  • Help children solve their own problems
  • Resolve parent/child conflicts more easily
  • Comfortably express their own concerns and unmet needs related to children’s behaviour


  • Parents want to get their needs met too. The challenge of ‘trying’ to be consistent, present a united front, and be forever tolerant.
  • How to listen so children will feel heard and understood using ‘Active listening’ or listening with empathy.
  • How to talk so children will respect your needs. Effective communication of your needs that really works.
  • Other ways to prevent and influence change in unacceptable behaviour. Strategies for modifying the environment and reducing conflict.
  • The inevitable conflicts. Who will win? Gaining cooperation and avoiding power struggles.
  • The no-lose method. How it develops resilience in kids and reduces rebellion or resentment.
  • Resolving value collisions with children, partner, friends & family members.


  • Children don’t talk openly to parents
  • Family conflict
  • Using punishment triggers feelings of guilt for parents and children react resentfully
  • Day-to-day demands often cause parents to feel, overwhelmed, overloaded and over-tired
  • Hassles over issues like: bedtimes, chores, rules, screen time
  • Children resist parents ideas and their values
  • Tantrums, scenes, battles of wills, flare-ups are frequent
  • Getting to school, arguments over homework or achievement level
  • Children have difficulty being assertive ; dealing with bullying


Sessions: The course is 24 hours. The Sunshine Coast course will be held over 4 Sundays from 9am till 3pm. The Milton course will also be conducted over four Sundays from 9am till 3pm. Classes are small and conducted in a friendly and relaxed environment. Individual coaching sessions are also available.

Who would attend: You do not have to be a parent. P.E.T. is open and valuable to anyone who is involved in situations, both personal and professional, where effective interpersonal communication is vital. Where possible it is most beneficial for couples to attend.

Cost: $450 per person. Each participant receives a workbook and a reference book ‘Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children’ by Dr Thomas Gordon, and also a Certificate of Completion.


Dates: 4 x Sundays – 17th, 24th May, 7th, and 21st June 2020 – now postponed due to COVID-19. Bookings being taken for alternate course (dates to be decided).

Venue: Oceanside Physiotherapy, Level 4, Suite 504 Pulse Oceanside Medical, 11 Eccles Blvd, Birtinya.

To Book: Places are limited so book early. Contact Kathryn Tonges.


Dates: 4 x Sundays – 26th July, 9th, 23rd August and 6th September 2020

Venue: Teach Starter office, The Milton, 55 Railway Tce, Milton

To Book: Places are limited so book early. Contact Kathryn Tonges.


• Less stress and anxiety.
• Better able to deal with anger and strong emotions
• Increased self confidence and assertiveness
• Learn listening skills
• Increased self -understanding

• Better two-way communication
• More family harmony
• Establish successful discipline
• Children become self-disciplined, more responsible and solve own problems
• Warmer feelings, closer relationships
• Children are more self-reliant, resilient, independent, and self-motivated Children more open to parent’s ideas
• More fun in the family!


Kathryn has conducted parenting courses for 38 years and coordinated a Family Support Program. She has taught from early childhood to tertiary level with a focus on Child Development and Effective Communication Skills. She has written blogs for Beijing Kids and Jing Magazines as well as Teach Starter.  She is a parenting & life coach and is married with two adult sons and is now a doting grandparent of three.

Kathryn’s presentation style is interactive, informative, motivational and personal. Read testimonials from parents.

Her passion is helping parents to build more peaceful, loving relationships through improving their communication skills.

Kathryn is co-author of ‘Slurping Soup and Other Confusions: true stories and activities to help third culture kids during transition’.

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Kathryn Tonges

May 17, 2020 - Jun 21, 2020

Sunshine Coast, QLD


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Kathryn Tonges

Kathryn Tonges

Sunshine Coast & Brisbane, QLD

I began conducting 'Parent Effectiveness Training' courses in 1978 and have been deeply rewarded by seeing the positive transformations within families. I am filled with gratitude that the effective communication skills I learnt with P.E.T. have underpinned all the interactions with children and people in my life since then. My two sons are now parents and I am witness to their natural use of P.E.T. skills. In my teaching career I taught from early childhood to tertiary level focusing on Child Development and Communication Skills. Children, parenting, and effective communications became my passion. I lived in Beijing for seven years and conducted P.E.T. and BYB courses for expatriates as well as training expatriates to become P.E.T. instructors. I have written for parenting magazines in Beijing and Australia and blog for my website The Parent Within ( Whilst in Beijing I co-authored a book with P.E.T. Instructors I had trained, to help expatriate children cope with the changes in their life. Since returning to Australia in 2014 I have taken on the positions of State Executive Officer for ETIA Queensland and more recently President of ETIA Ltd. I am also a National Trainer of Instructors for ETIA Ltd. for P.E.T., B.Y.B., T.E.T. and Y.E.T. My passion to teach P.E.T. courses continues in Brisbane and the Sunshine Coast as well as coaching parents individually.

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About ETIA

The Effectiveness Training Institute of Australia (ETIA) Ltd is a not-for-profit, community based organisation that is dedicated to making courses in communication and conflict resolution skills available and accessible to all people in Australia.

ETIA’s mission is to provide individuals with effective communication and conflict resolution skills to build connected, harmonious relationships.

Our inspiration and programs come from the late Dr Thomas Gordon who is the author and founder of Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.) program and Gordon Training International (GTI).

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