Written by Melissa Strader
Responding to her child's intense raw emotions, P.E.T. Instructor Melissa Strader explores her best choice of action even when she too felt like screaming!
Studies of Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.) have produced evidence-based positive outcomes over a generation for Australian parents taking the course. A large investigation into the outcomes from 26 PET courses run by different instructors in six states of Australia (Wood, 2003) focused on the current relevance of P.E.T. for a radically changed society in which emotional health, interpersonal skills, and problem prevention have all been shown to be of crucial importance for parents and their families today. Experimental results showed P.E.T. groups achieved substantially and significantly higher scores than controls on the core skills of empathic listening, appropriate assertiveness and conflict resolution. Compared with controls the P.E.T. parents showed a significantly greater reduction in levels of parental stress about their family concerns.
The Trouble with Time Out by Larissa Dan
Gordon International Training
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Written by Larissa Dann
More and more parents are educating themselves on the best way to bring up their children. We search the Internet, we read books, and we attend parenting classes.
“The PET course has genuinely affected the way I engage with my kids, wife and even my staff!
Being a Dad of four kids from eight years old down to one year old, I have swung from believing I knew everything there is to know about raising a child to thinking that parenting is a lost cause and I am just along for the ride.
PET connected with me as it wasn’t a magical parenting formula to follow and that I didn’t need to be the perfect parent. Instead it was a set of communication skills that recognized that I as a parent have important needs and that my child also has important needs and these skills help us both get what we need. Previously, I felt guilty if I met my work/social/sporting needs at the cost of my child’s needs. Other times I felt frustrated when my child’s needs were met at the cost of mine. Finding skills to get what we both need in win-win situations has helped immensely.
After the first session of real practicing and tutorials, I was amazed at how helpful the single skill of active listening was for engaging my kids. I suddenly started paying attention in this first session as I realized how valuable these seemingly simple communication skills are. The practice in the sessions was crucial for me to get the confidence to put it into practice.
I now engage my kids in a connected and meaningful way each day, I feel that my kids deeply respect me for connecting with them and I suddenly feel more present when I am with my family.
I now have the skills to have deeper and more meaningful relationships with my kids. I will be able to communicate my values to them and I will be ready to help them through the difficult issues that they will face in life.”- Peter, father of 4 children, now has meaningful relationships
The Effectiveness Training Institute of Australia (ETIA) Ltd is a not-for-profit, community based organisation that is dedicated to making courses in communication and conflict resolution skills available and accessible to all people in Australia.
ETIA’s mission is to provide individuals with effective communication and conflict resolution skills to build connected, harmonious relationships.
Our inspiration and programs come from the late Dr Thomas Gordon who is the author and founder of Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.) program and Gordon Training International (GTI).
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